Somewhere, a long time ago, I was privy to a piece of advice I use almost daily. I teach it to my kids and repeat in my own mind; even share it with my friends and family members. The sad part is that even after research, I cannot figure out who the wise soul was that blessed me with this mantra. I wish I could thank them, but I can’t. So, I figure sharing this little gem with you is the next best thing.
There are times in life when we are just plain scared. Scared to stick our necks out, scared to try to reach our goals, scared to fail. If you ask me, it’s one of the worst feelings. Why is it that at times when you need it most, your courage wants to leave you in the dust?
That catchphrase that means so much to me is this: nervousness is just the feeling before something amazing happens. At first read, it might seem silly or wrong, but think about it. Almost every situation in your life that you were nervous about ended well, or in the very least, the way it was meant to be. Whether we’re talking business opportunities, life plans or personal growth, nervousness is a part of life.
What if, instead of focusing on your fear about what lies ahead, you decided to believe that nervousness actually leads to success? Experts say that a little bit of anxiety can actually focus and prepare us to tackle a goal. Don’t curse yourself for occasional jitters; those feelings just might be helping you rise to the challenge.
I think most of us can agree, in hindsight, things often work out in the end. If we accept nervousness as the prelude to success, even something amazing, we’re able to welcome it in and navigate through those feelings without paying them too much attention. We can just simply say to ourselves, “Oh, I know what this is! This is the feeling before something AMAZING happens!”
This one little thing has helped me to grab the good in every situation, even those that feel less comfortable than I like. Our kids are growing up thinking that mild anxieties are part of life, which helps them feel brave in ways that I never did as a kid. Speeches, auditions and performances are nothing for them; they never were. And for me? I no longer fall apart before a speech or fear a new career challenge. Whatever I’m facing, I just take a deep breath and believe that something amazing is about to happen.